Wednesday, January 14, 2015

On Being Christian and Being Charlie???

This is not intended to be a rant, nor a condemnation, nor a political statement; I am not even attempting to make some theological argument, though it is based upon the way I am understanding faith and life.  I am not attempting to belittle the suffering of the friends and families of the Charlie Hebdo victims, or any victims of terrorist action; nor am I attempting to criticize the publication Charlie Hebdo or any satirical work.

This is me, as a Christian, living and serving internationally, wrestling with questions of terrorism, faith, freedom, responsibility and more.  I am not asking that you agree with me, and if you disagree please don't be disagreeable, but I am willing to dialogue about it.  I don't have the answers and I'm writing in hopes of bringing clarity to my own process while tossing out the questions that some of you may have also been wrestling within your minds and social circles.

The terrorist activity in France last week, targeting the satirical publication Charlie Hebdo, was by
every definition a tragedy.  The perpetrators of the act of walking into a workplace with the intent of ending even just one life is without excuse.  The act of killing a wounded officer on the ground at point blank range is sickening.

It is ironic that a publication that holds nothing sacred is being elevated to martyrdom.  The article that ran in Al Jazeera English, Let's Not Sacralize Charlie Hebdo, is correct--it is a publication that takes aim at the sacred (of all religious and belief persuasions) and all absolutes.  And modern, western civilization has been holding up the "Je Suis Charlie" hashtags, placards, and tee shirts as the new WWJD bracelet.

And that's where my questions started getting raised.  I want to stand in solidarity with France--and with Nigeria whose own latest devastation at the hands of militant Islamic-based terrorists (Boko Haram) is titanic in proportion--these terrorist acts are an insult to all faiths.  I want to stand up for free speech--just as I want to stand for freedom of religion--even if the speech or religious belief that is chosen is counter to my own.

But I believe that freedom of faith and freedom of expression also come with responsibility, namely to not be dismissive, deriding, demonizing or destructive to the faith and expressions of others.

And this is the catch-22 of our era--the challenge of living in interfaith communities or just in the same world in the internet age--our various faiths or degrees of faith (or lack) come into conflict with one another from the prayers offered at public gatherings, to public memorials and displays, to publications, to social media posts, to...

"Je Suis Charlie" may be a rallying cry of solidarity, but what are we saying by jumping on the bandwagon?  That I agree with the guy who draws a picture knowing that it will intentionally offend and belittle the belief of millions?  That I agree with an article that mocks a culture and race of individuals whom I hardly know but will perpetuate stereotypes and prejudice?

I know that "Je Suis Charlie" arose out of good intentions.  But good intentions can also hurt people.

And with that in mind, I have to say, "Je ne suis pas Charlie."

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A few years ago, frontman Marcus Mumford of the band "Mumford and Sons" did an interview for Rolling Stone magazine.  Marcus' parents were leaders of a Vineyard church in Australia, and many noted the spiritual themes and lyrics within the bands music.  In the interview, Marcus is asked if he considered himself a Christian, and his answer really outraged the Christian community because he said,
"I don't really like that word," he says. "It comes with so much baggage. So, no, I wouldn't call myself a Christian. I think the word just conjures up all these religious images that I don't really like. I have my personal views about the person of Jesus and who he was. Like, you ask a Muslim and they'll say, 'Jesus was awesome' – they're not Christians, but they still love Jesus. I've kind of separated myself from the culture of Christianity."
The Christian community labeled Marcus a "sell out," "ashamed of Jesus," and all sorts of accusations.  I don't think that Marcus (and countless young adults) was necessarily ashamed of Jesus--and I'm not trying to label him a Christian--but, as he said, ashamed of the Christian community that goes with that label.  

Why do I bring this up while writing about Charlie Hebdo?

I have two related thoughts:

First, I think that many have jumped on the intention of demonstrating solidarity with France without fully thinking about what the statement "Je Suis Charlie Hebdo" may also imply.  I similarly see so many "Christian" or conservative publications and articles that have a good/catchy headline, or main idea, or notable author,  but upon further examination, the rest of the content is narrow-minded, mean-spirited, full of stereotype and prejudice, or even just ignorant--yet it gets forwarded, re-posted, or shared through social media, often because a friend we know had done the same.  By such careless, thoughtless activity we create the "Christian" prejudice & stereotypes that are getting in the way of the young, marginalized, outcast, searching, atheist, agnostic, Hindi, Muslim, Buddhist, or others--they can't see the Christ, without stumbling through the walls of our "Christian" stuff.  (By the way, love him or choose to pile on him, I agree with Rob Bell's thought that "Christian" makes a poor adjective; see his book Velvet Elvis.)

Secondly, because the Charlie Hebdo situation also has to do with the terror inflicted by militant Islamist-based faith, I see/read politicians, western media, & social media users bashing, stereotyping, and increasing prejudice toward Muslims and those from Middle Eastern cultures; sadder still is that many are doing so in the name of Jesus.  And while they have climbed on the back of the One who bore the sins of all humanity (who came not to condemn the world but save it), they simultaneously take the whips, mocking, spitting and change the shouts of "crucify" with modern "crusade" against Muslim and Middle Eastern people.  As one person from a western culture, representing and attempting to serve in Jesus name in the Middle East, I am often embarrassed and sometimes ashamed at what I see/hear reported, reposted, or retweeted.  I know that some Muslims have intentionally declared war and take to violent, destructive action against Christians and western culture--and I am not a pacifist and believe in defending ourselves and fighting against evil men--but I do not think that Christians ought to be taking up the speech nor the digital words and images as weapons and inflict the same sort of barbarian, vindictive action upon the reputations of millions whom you do not know or understand.  Such talk/posts create and foster enmity, not understanding and any chance for a better tomorrow.

I recently read this Muslim publication that reported on a unique document held at the oldest monastery in the world, St. Catherine's at the base of the Sinai Mountain in the heart of the Middle East.  Surrounded by an ever increasing Islamic region, the leaders of St Catherine's sent a delegation to the Prophet Muhammed, founder of Islam, to request protection in 628 AD.  Muhammed responded graciously, and his response remains at St. Catherine's to this day--it reads...
The Promise to St. Catherine: “This is a message from Muhammad ibn Abdullah, as a covenant to those who adopt Christianity, near and far, we are with them. Verily I, the servants, the helpers, and my followers defend them, because Christians are my citizens; and by Allah! I hold out against anything that displeases them. No compulsion is to be on them. Neither are their judges to be removed from their jobs nor their monks from their monasteries. No one is to destroy a house of their religion, to damage it, or to carry anything from it to the Muslims’ houses. Should anyone take any of these, he would spoil God’s covenant and disobey His Prophet. Verily, they are my allies and have my secure charter against all that they hate. No one is to force them to travel or to oblige them to fight. The Muslims are to fight for them. If a female Christian is married to a Muslim, it is not to take place without her approval. She is not to be prevented from visiting her church to pray. Their churches are to be respected. They are neither to be prevented from repairing them nor the sacredness of their covenants. No one of the nation (Muslims) is to disobey the covenant till the Last Day (end of the world).”
Like me, I bet few from my country of origin, or within my faith movement, have ever heard/read that; yet, we so quickly forward hatred or fear in defense of Jesus.  How much could we learn if we would be willing to listen to one another?  How much could be healed if we heeded the instructions of the ones we claim to follow?  We'll never really know because we rarely get started nor stay on such roads.

From Colossians 4:5-6
Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.  Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
If "salt" is "truth which prevents moral decay and leads to holiness," then I think that our well-intentioned posts, forwards, and all the religious talking heads get this in reverse--they're heavy on the salt with (at best) a side of grace.  Salt as seasoning is to create thirst and bring out the flavors of what is being seasoned.  So little grace is being served in our conversations today, and especially in response to atrocities like at the offices of Charlie Hebdo last week.  

Finally, we need to spend some time on this verse and Ephesians 4:19 and any other Scripture referencing our words (whether written or spoken) and find some application as it relates to the digital age in which we find ourselves.  We've jumped into a world wide web of confusion and darkness, and we're doing little to adequately bring the light and love of Jesus Christ into it.  I fear we have installed the apps and instilled additional confusion and barriers.  


So there it is--my thoughts and feelings, hopes and fears, wondering and maybe even wandering.  We're living in a complex world that is ever in closer proximity to one another, yet we haven't discovered how to be neighbors.   We have the tools that could foster dialogue and fuel understanding, and instead we use these tools like simpletons who simply perpetuate the cycles of fear and hate.  You may have your own thoughts and questions--mine may have really disturbed you and you want to dialogue, even to correct me--post a comment, send an email, pick up the phone, schedule a Skype or day at Starbucks.  I'm willing to hear as well as be heard; I'm willing to walk with you to a deeper, different expression of faith than that of the "Christian culture"--I want to find the heart of Jesus for the world in which we live, and if you want that too, let's start the conversation...

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Fresno 1st Sends Pastor Greg to Beirut

Dr. Greg Kendall will be joining me (Ken) in Beirut this Thursday.  Greg is the Senior Pastor at Fresno (CA) 1st Church of God, one of our great network of supporting churches.  I got to know Greg and his wife Becky this summer during our home assignment, and in the process, I knew he had some great experience and passions that would benefit the 3W region.  I was really hopeful, and now really grateful, that he would be able to assist us in providing some teaching for the newly created Teen Discipleship program, which was launched last fall.

Nabil Melki
Pastor Joy Mallouh
The Teen Discipleship program is a partnership between Three Worlds with the Church of God in Lebanon, created with national leader Pastor Joy Mallouh.  The program is designed with eight sessions offered quarterly over two years, with the hope that a new class will begin every fall; the summer session can be longer in a camp format, while the other three sessions will be weekend retreat events.  The two year Discipleship program can be followed up with a similar two year Leadership Development plan; the goal is that we will create a leadership development culture in Lebanon through this ongoing process.  Each quarterly session will offer leaders from within and beyond Lebanon speaking into the lives of the participants, and is aided by the commitment and example of young adults who also participate as mentors to the teens.

In November, we were able to begin with a group of 12 older teens representing several of the Lebanon congregations.  During the weekend, we focused on Worship and Prayer.  We began with Nabil Melki speaking about the differences, as well as pros and cons of corporate versus personal worship.  Pastor Joy Mallouh shared a session on a Biblical understanding of worship to end the first night, before we spent the remainder of the evening socializing over games, snacks, and music.
games with the teens

The next morning began with group discussions on the worship presentations.  The groups were led by the young adults, and focused on these questions:
1.  What new understanding did you gain about worship?
2.  How will this lead you to worship differently in the future?
3.  What remaining question(s) do you have regarding worship?

Issa leads large group feedback
We gathered together to share and discuss these as a large group before going on to prayer.  Pastor Nabil Melik of the Sioufi Church of God came to share some Biblical understanding of prayer, and I completed the sessions with a presentation on prayer strategies and patterns, beginning with the Lord's Prayer.  A similar small group discussion time was incorporated to conclude this first weekend.  The participants rated the experience very favorably and that gives us a lot of encouragement heading into this next weekend.

Pastor Nabil Melki
Greg will lead the sessions over this next weekend using materials designed to help the students have an overview of the Scripture.  The sessions will be based on workbooks and an expandable timeline that 1st Church Fresno has generously purchased for the program.  We are excited about this partnership!

On Saturday evening, I will be able to introduce Greg to the Ana Terzo young adult ministry in their weekly Bible study.  On Sunday morning, Greg will preach with Pastor Joy translating at the Mar Mitr Church of God congregation in Beirut.  On Monday, Greg and I will spend time with the Heart for Lebanon staff.  And either Monday or Tuesday, Greg will have a chance to dialogue with the Lebanon Church of God pastors on the challenges of leading congregations out of program driven models into more missional approaches of ministry.

Pray for Greg as he travels, and pray for the opportunities for mutual encouragement and faith development.

It will be a busy, and full week, and I am excited about all of it.  I am especially excited to spend the time with Greg in our region.  We are looking forward to several partnership opportunities that are being planned for 2015, and we are hopeful that we some of this will include partnership within Egypt.  You can follow us on Twitter @ok2serve or on Facebook (Oldham ThreeWorlds) to see pictures and updates about Greg's visit this next week.  

Sunday, December 21, 2014

Merry Christmas!

So, it feels like this just happened...
This was right after we landed in Seattle on July 12 -
where did the time go?!?!?


August 11 -  we flew from Los Angeles to back to Cairo

August 12 - we arrive in Cairo

August 13 - the kids are back in school, I (Ken) am on a plane to Beirut

August 14-18 - in Lebanon, mostly for Ana Terzo Camp

August 31-Sept 7 - back to Lebanon, mostly for Heart for Lebanon retreat/meetings

Sept 13 - resume weekly CCF Kids program

Sept 18-19 - in the hospital with Titus for surgery to reset severely dislocated thumb, resulting in weekly doctor follow-up visits

Oct 13-16 - in Germany for meetings with colleagues and national leadership

Nov 6-10 - in Budapest for the Lectures

Nov 20 - car's clutch breakdown

Nov 21-23 - back to Beirut for the Teen Discipleship launch

Nov 26-30 - in Athens for 3W Staff meeting

Dec 4-5 - Grace battles kidney "granules"

Dec 12 - CCF's annual Christmas bazaar

Dec 13 - car accident

and, Dec 13 - CCF Kids last program of the calendar year

I had to go back through all of those events, trips, and surprises over the past few months because each seemed to keep us hopping at an incredible pace.  I didn't include most of the daily or weekly routine.  Nor did I include 4 birthdays, a musical, a band concert, a Christmas pageant, and all the prep/practices that went into those events.  We had a busy summer, it has remained busy ever since--and, as Keli likes to remind me, it was busy before we left for summer!

So, what's now:
hot chocolate before the annual MCC Christmas Pageant
Christmas Break - with the exception of the few Christmas events that follow in the next section of this post, we will take it "easy" with the kids.  We have had some garden work begin; each year there is a lot of garden work that has to take place at this time to get it ready to be green and wonderful for the rest of the year.  Trees were trimmed, flowers and bushes will be removed or relocated, and either sod or new grass seed has to be sown.  In addition to the garden, another big villa project will begin this break to renovate the lower level of one villa; the changes will better host the children's program each week, and get us one step closer to having the other villa's overhaul complete.

But the best part of Christmas break, what we enjoy most, is taking a break with the kids.  We catch up on television shows (currently, Once Upon A Time), play games, stay up late, sleep late, and go shopping--Christmas Eve shopping trips are a breeze because usually no one is in the malls at this time here in Egypt, with  most of the emphasis on January 7 (Orthodox Christmas).  And we clean up rooms or cars or other living spaces that have just gathered a semester's worth of clutter.

So, what's next:
Dec 21 - CCF annual Christmas Candlelight service - the Cairo Christian Fellowship share this
an old Candlelight service pic from 2012
annual tradition with their host church, the St. Andrew United Church of Cairo, where they have worshipped since the late 1950's!  This is always a special service and we are so thankful to be included in the CCF family.

Dec 24 - Maadi Community Church's annual Christmas Eve Candlelight - the local international
the annual Christmas PJ pic is a favorite tradition in our home
church also has an annual candlelight service, and it's nice to go over and share this moment as a family, and to be led rather than doing the leading.  And the kids will get their annual Christmas Eve present - new PJ's :)

Dec 25 - Christmas at home - cinnamon rolls & bacon are served after stockings and gifts--but all of that waits (as it had for all Oldham's before me) until the parents get their coffee ;)

Dec 28 - CCF Christmas Choir presentation - the CCF have a member who directs the Heliopolis Evangelical Church choir, and some who sing within the group, too.  Actually, many CCF used to sing in this choir until the last few years.  Having a Christmas choral presentation between the western and eastern Christmas dates is a great way to tie the season together.

One note, this last quarter has had the highest attendance in the weekly CCF worship since our arrival in 2012.  There has not only been renewed interest, but also a bit of renewed confidence in moving about the city each Sunday night.  In addition, during the weekend we were in Greece, the CCF held a retreat with nearly 50 participants--they were unable to hold this last year due to security and lack of interest!  The two services mentioned above (Dec 21 and 28) are usually two of the highest attendances each year, so we're ending 2014 with a lot of momentum for the future.

So, what's next year:
January 1 - our 21st wedding anniversary, and couldn't be happier :)
21 years! But we're only 25!

January 7 - in addition to Coptic Christmas, it is also our 3rd Anniversary in Cairo

And after that, it just gets busier--seriously.  We'll resume the CCF Kids program, weekly CCF Worship, and the kids will go back to school--but in addition to the norm in Cairo, the travel picks up!  As a family, there are already 12 trips scheduled in the next 5 months!

We will also have 2 or 3 visits from friends and family all before next summer.  Wow!

It has been quite a year, and there's quite a lot to look forward to in 2015, but for now, we'll take a breath and try to take in as much of the Christmas holiday with our children and the CCF.  This is such a wonderful and special time and we are reminded of just how blessed we are to be able to share the holiday together and in service to the Church internationally.

Thank you for your continuing interest, thoughts, prayers, encouragement and support--all that has been done, all that is planning to be done, and all that we are still yet imagining is possible only through God's grace and provision through your partnership.

Here's a jpg of our Christmas letter...if it's not real clear, you can contact us for a better copy :)